Maria Pareo

Energy Healing & Counselling

In this post,

I’ll address some of the most common questions you may have regarding energy healing.

What are Egyptian Essene therapies? What is the role of the Therapist?

The Egyptian Essene therapist is first and foremost an instrument between the Higher Self and the individual, and a bridge between the energy provided from the heavens, the earth and the body.

The therapist helps the consciousness of the person being treated to engage the energy block at a mental and emotional level, processing and integrating it to regain balance.

At the beginning of each treatment, the therapist creates a ‘sacred space’ around the person, setting aside their own individuality and judgement to become simply a channel.

The Egyptian Essene therapies take into account not only the physical body of the person but also all their other subtle bodies: astral, mental, causal, going back to the real cause of the block to free it and reintroduce harmony in different planes.

What happens during the healing process and how does it work?

When accessed through energy work (energy healing, counselling, readings), our blocks, shadows and unbalances will rise to the surface, thus making themselves visible.

This process of “bringing to the light” is part of the transition that a painful memory makes on its journey from the unconscious to the conscious part of the self.

It is during this phase that we have the opportunity to see, understand, digest and eventually detach, integrate and heal.

This may involve an initial degree of suffering to our mental state and our emotional body, due to the shift of energy and awareness that arises during the process.

Painful memories often attach themselves to various thought-forms off which they feed.

Over time, these “entities” and unhealthy life dynamics may affect our energy balance, creating energetic leakages, energy flow interruptions, unbalances,

emotional build-ups and energy stagnations.

These may occur initially on a subtle/auric level and then on a mental/physical level.

A practical example:

Let's imagine that we have been neglected or abandoned by our parents. As a consequence of this lack of support and care, we may have developed a very tough, energetic armour around ourselves. Sometimes this can manifest physically with a shield form in the areas of our stomach and belly (emotional accumulation of non-digested and unexpressed feelings).

This armour is there to protect all the most vulnerable and wounded aspects of us, allowing us to survive and make it into adulthood.

What are the consequences of childhood traumas?

As a result of childhood experiences, a person may find themselves

repeatedly recreating certain scenarios in their adult lives.

For example, they may, without realising, find themselves in relationships

that repeat a pattern of attracting people who then abandon them,

resulting in a feeling that they are perpetual victims at the mercy of life’s unfairness.

As these patterns go unexamined and the same scenarios play out again and again,

the resulting emotional turmoil is held deep in the body.

Meanwhile, the person is likely to find themselves thinking,

‘This is my common experience so this must be how it is.

This is normal and I must accept that this is how it is always going to be.’

Over time, these painful experiences create their own reality which becomes

so solidified that a person is unable to see the possibility of living any other way.

Behavioural habits, however destructive, become so familiar that a person is reluctant or altogether unable to accept the possibility of change, perhaps

unable to imagine a different way of going about things.

Repeating familiar patterns, however unhealthy/traumatic they may be, might feel safer to that person than opening themselves to a new way of being and of healing.

How long does it take to heal from these wounds?

A good question and one which I put to my own therapist a few months

into the work which involved dealing with a very heavy emotional load.

I knew in my heart of hearts that the work I was doing was vital to my wellbeing

but I couldn’t help wondering how long I would need to keep doing the work.

With deep wisdom, my therapist answered the question with a question.

How long had it taken for me to get to this point?

She wasn’t suggesting that my therapy would need to take the same

number of years it had taken me to get to that point.

She was simply inviting me to see that it would take as long as it needed to take.

From that moment, the question ‘How long is this going to take?’

no longer seemed relevant. From there, I allowed myself to go with the flow.

As I continued the work, I took none of it for granted,

taking pride in every achievement, however small,

learning the true meaning of being kind and compassionate toward myself.

When we embark on a healing journey with a therapist, it is hard to tell how long

or how many sessions it is going to take. May take months. It may take years.

The patient is the one that decides the pace and for how long the journey will last.

The therapist can only make constructive suggestions but the patient

has absolute freedom in the choices they make.

This will also help the person to take responsibility for their own life, actions and progress.

A few more factors to be considered:

• The depth and seriousness of the issues.

• The number of years these problems have been carried through life or even through generations within the family.

• The level of trust between the client and the therapist.

• The person's ability to observe, recognize and accept that the problem is just one of many life experiences and be able to finally let go and move on.

• Resistance to change, (even unconscious).

• The need to mentally control the sessions.

• Procrastination.

• The time allowed to Integrate the experience: Resting when need it, continuing the work in between sessions, no rushing or sharing immediately the experience with the outside world.

• A person’s ability to work with these issues at a pace that suits them.

• Preconceptions or attachment to a specific outcome.

• Unrealistic expectations.

My suggestion will be to approach all this with curiosity and an open heart.

Of course, it is completely natural to want to move towards a better,

healthier place but attachment to outcome can often get in the way of reaching that place much as trying to get back to sleep can be the one thing guaranteed

to keep us awake in the middle of the night.

Will I see the results straight away?

We all are so different and we all process things in very different ways.

One thing that might be helpful to know is that the physical body, due to its density, processes the information in a much slower way than the rest of the other subtle bodies and aspects of ourselves and needs a little longer to integrate and shift its energy.

Once our cells have released the unhealthy information that has been held within,

we are likely to experience major shifts, resulting in greater self-respect, self-awareness, self-confidence, along with a greater sense of connection with others.

What if I have already worked on myself with the help of a psychologist/counsellor but still feel that I have made little in the way of progress?

When we begin the healing process, it is important to remember that some wounds have different levels to them and operate on more than one plane.

Also, the Holistic/energetic approach is very different from the kind of approach

you might be used to with a psychologist.

The Holistic/energetic approach will involve work on at least some of the following levels:

• The mental level: In this level, we explore the intellectual understanding of the more psychological and rational facets of our experiences and memories.

• The emotional level: Here we explore various types of relationships, including the one with ourselves, various forms of attachments, dependency and boundaries.

• The physical level: Here we learn to read and feel what parts of our life experience are held in the body or rejected by the body. As part of the healing journey, we learn to connect in a profoundly meaningful way with our body and become deeply intimate with the physical consequences of the trauma that has been experienced and held.

• The energy/auric/Causal level: Here we familiarise ourselves with the trauma that is held on a subtle level, including past lives, ancestors/family and various disempowering dynamics.

• The spiritual level: In this part of the process, we gain a deeper and higher understanding of the experiences we’ve been through and thereby become able to integrate, transform and forgive on a genuine heart level; ultimately letting go and moving on.

At times, we may be able to work on all the above levels simultaneously.

At other times, a more measured, structured approach will be necessary.

During/after energetic healing or when using natural remedies such as Bach's flowers, why do I sometimes feel tired or worse than before?

Here a few common causes:

• There may be a tendency to want to control the session and to achieve a specific outcome, rather than approaching the work with open-heartedness and curiosity, allowing it to unfold in its own way.

• Tiredness may be caused by a determined holding on to what is held in the body. Often, the mind will try to fight as hard as possible to hold on to what has been there for a long time and has become familiar. This may result in resistance or tension in the body, headaches, pain in the jaw etc.

  This is all a normal part of the process.

• Though someone may feel, on a conscious level, that they are willing to engage with the work, there may be some resistance on an unconscious level.

• Especially at the beginning of this work, a certain amount of physical exhaustion may be felt due to the amount of stress that has been held in the body over a long period and is now being released. Once it is noticed and assimilated, healing can begin.

• A certain amount of tiredness at the start of the process may be due to the unfamiliarity of the environment. You are embarking on an intimate journey with someone who is a relative stranger. As you begin to trust and bond with your therapist, it becomes easier and easier to relax into the process itself.

• After a session, particularly in the early stages of the work, a degree of tiredness may be due to you feeling more vulnerable and exposed. Again, this is a natural part of the process and is unlikely to persist. It is important to be patient and gentle with yourself after a session, rather than rushing back into the hurly-burly of life.

How much will this imply in terms of costs?

Is this going to be a very expensive process?

I understand very well the financial implication of all this,

and I am going to reply with absolute honesty.

When I decided to work with a professional myself,

it was very hard for me to balance the financial implications

of paying for the sessions and my everyday expenses.

Often I thought I was wasting my money and I was hoping that I could find someone that could help me in a quicker and less costly way.

Sometimes I even though found myself thinking, “Why should I even pay for this”?

Only when I started training to become a therapist myself,

I started to understand the importance of balance, honesty and patience.

I’ve had to make a few sacrifices to be able to pay for my sessions and courses.

This allowed me to weigh up my priorities in life, finally understanding what was important and necessary for my health,

whilst determining what expenses were essential and non-essential.

Being forced to face economical realities was part of the healing itself and allowed me to work on my relationship with money as well as learning the true value of the time and energy involved in facilitating the healing and growth of others.

I can happily say that any money I have spent on self-work

has been the most precious gift I have given to myself.

You are investing in yourself. You are investing in a better, healthier version of you.

The good news is that If you are considering embarking on this type of process, several holistic modalities are now available with a very good price range to suit all budgets.

Remember that it is essential to find the approach that resonates the most with you,

the one you feel most connected to.

Don't feel discouraged if it may take a bit of time to find the right approach

and the right therapist to work with, it is all part of the process.

Why should I pay for energy practices?

Healing, energy practice and spirituality have never had the most relationship

with money. In the distant past, many healers were travellers who

asked for shelter and food in exchange for their services.

Personally, I place a great deal of importance on the idea of ‘being of service’.

In helping others on their path, I seek no personal gratification.

I see myself as a channel, someone who creates and holds a space for others to develop,

a space in which trust is all-important.

In the distant past. I may have been one of those itinerant healers

who was content with food and shelter in exchange for my services.

But this is the modern world in which the holistic field requires a huge amount of professional dedicated study and training is required in order to operate as a fully qualified practitioner. In the real world, a qualified holistic practitioner faces the same economic demands as everyone else – paying rent, taxes, insurance, and so on.

As with so many other relationships, the one between therapist and client requires an element of ‘fair exchange’. Unavoidably, at least in this day and age, this will involve the exchange of services for money. Perhaps think of it in terms of an exchange of energy.

Why should I commit to a process that might turn out to be lengthy when there are people/approaches who claim to be able to shift my energy in 24 hours or less?

Offers of quick fixes should always be treated with a strong measure of suspicion, not least because quick fixes never work. Not properly. Genuine transformation requires time, patience, resilience, discipline, regularity and, yes, self-compassion.

Genuine transformation will not be rushed.

Speaking as someone who is very passionate about what they do, I don’t believe in offering people convenient boil-in-the-bag solutions, nor do I believe in creating false expectations. The bedrock of my practice is trust. Mutual trust.

I believe in empowering people to make their own choices about the right approach

and the time needed for that approach to yield the benefits.

My belief lies in the Essenian way and that way defines my life and my work.

I am a very sensitive yet practical soul. My spirit soars but my feet are firmly on the ground. Whilst honouring my humanity and the call of the earth,

I’m also able to heed the call of the celestial and the divine.

In terms of my work, I like to keep it grounded, accessible, practical,

inspirational, intimate, profound and sacred. I like to keep it real.

How will I know if I am ready to embark on this work?

If you feel you are ready to let go of your pain, release yourself from toxicity

and embrace the healing light, then, assuredly, you are ready.

Once you take that first step, you will embark on a journey that will teach you

how to heal your deepest, most enduring wounds; that will teach you to love yourself unconditionally and love others honestly and courageously.

Ask yourself this:

Am I ready to begin a journey that will help me connect more authentically

with myself and with others, help me live life more fully, and realise

my absolute potential as a conscious and compassionate being?

Am I ready to exchange suffering for liberation?

Am I ready to be open to personal transformation?

Am I ready to connect with the vital and divine currents that ask for

nothing more from me than a willingness to let harmony and beauty into my life?

Am I ready to take the plunge and be open to all the wonderful

possibilities that lie in wait?

If so, then you are ready for the adventure of a lifetime.

I hope you have enjoyed this article.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Maria.

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